I just wanted to wish everyone a Happy Valentine’s Day and I hope each and everyone’s dreams and wishes for a romantic and memorable day came true.

Brandon Heart

For those of you who leave everything to the last minute. Reminder – you have exactly 9 days till Valentine’s Day. Plan something special for your loved one. Let them know how much you love them. You don’t have to buy something expensive, but whatever you do put a little effort, thought and time in to whatever you plan.

Yes you can do the obvious, dinner, movies, chocolates, flowers … etc. Yes you can have a nice evening with your significant other by doing these things, that you and everyone else has already done. Wouldn’t you want to be different, stand out from everyone else and make this Valentine’s Day the one that your partner will always remember. Your partner will tell their friends and co-workers what you did and they will all praise you for doing something so romantic and tell their significant other “Why can’t you do something like that?” You’ll be the talk of the town.

There are lots of different ways of making your Valentine’s a very romantic and unforgettable one.

-For starters instead of going out to a fancy restaurant, that will charge you double the price for those 24 hours only, why don’t you hire someone to cook at your house for you privately. Example if your into Sushi, go to your local sushi bar and ask one of the sushi chefs if they would be interested in making some extra cash for a couple of hours cooking at your house. How nice would that be, having your own personal sushi chef preparing your meal for you in the comfort of your own home.

-Also the money you saved from going out to some expensive and fancy restaurant. Hire a musician to come over to your house to sing or play your favorite songs for you during your dinner. If you choose otherwise, prepare the perfect playlist on your iPod or a CD of his or her favorite songs to play during dinner.

-After Dinner for desert, this is a must for chocolate lovers. Hand dipped Strawberries in Chocolate. If you want to go all out get a chocolate fountain with both white and dark chocolate to dip your fresh strawberries or other fruits you enjoy. Cheaper alternative is nice Fondue set.

-Create a Scrap book of some of the most memorable times you’ve spent to together from Pictures, to special things you’ve kept. Example: tickets to the first movie you saw together, scrap piece of paper with your partner phone number on it when you first met, old Valentines, Birthday or Christmas cards you kept that meant something to you. Showing them something like this displays how sentimental you really are. Show this to your partner after or during desert.

-If you really want to do something special, how about making a video compilation of the two of you sharing special times together and just add in your favorite music. Start the video off by talking into the camera dedicating this video to your partner and giving them all the reasons why you love them so much. Have it professional done or If you have access to video editing software it’s as easy as dragging and dropping the videos and pictures in the order you want. If this is too complicated for you, create one with pictures & audio using power point.

-Set the mood with a Hot and Steamy Love Nest. First create a relaxing environment in your tub or bath with some scented candles, bubbles and romantic music. A bath and a nice body massage for your partner to get things started. Then lead him or her to the bedroom where the magic happens. Things to help create that perfect romantic environment are color schemes for the room. Accent your room with red or purple and white. Even though it’s a cliche, cover the room with rose pedals. Use more candles, you can never have enough especially aromatherapy candles to set the mood. Scents such as vanilla, sandalwood and rose are perfect aphrodisiacs. Make sure to have your special basket of goodies. Things to include are lotions, massage oils, lubricants and any toys you think that you both might enjoy.

-Lastly WOW your partner and make sure to give them a night that they‘ll cherish and remember forever with HOT AMAZING SEX, EROTIC, SENSUAL & PASSIONATE LOVE MAKING. To learn how to please your partner like never before click here to Learn 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets.

It’s that time of year again, where it seems like everyone else around you seems to be having the times of their lives accept you. That time of the year that reminds you that being alone during the holidays really sucks. It’s really difficult to try and enjoy the holidays when you’re single and everyone around you is so lovey dovey with their significant others and it feels like you’re the only single person left in the whole world.

Unfortunately when you don’t have someone special to spend the holiday season with you have a tendency to reminisce in the past and think of an ex or someone you previously spent the holidays with. You try and remember some festive activities you shared together or just the time you spent together during this time of year and wonder what it would be like if you were still together. Doing this will make matters worse and make you more vulnerable to doing something stupid like calling them which could open up the flood gates to another broken heart that was in the process of already healing.

I find that it’s during this time of year which makes for the fondest memories and trigger those special childhood ones that you somehow try to re-live and bring back. It’s also that time of year which can bring out the worst and best in some people because of previous Christmas and the memories they have.

So my advice to you, if you’re alone again during this holiday season tell yourself that “This is the last Christmas you’re going to be alone”. Look at it like it’s a blessing in disguise. A reason for you to really find yourself and get ready for the new year ahead. Your year to come – 2010. This is the year you break out of your rut and make it the best and happiest year so far. But for now spend this time of year with family and close friends. Be thankful for the blessing you do have in your life. Appreciate that you’re lucky enough to wake up to another day and that any day now you might find that special someone. Don’t exclude yourself from going out and having fun because you’re feeling down and depressed. Go out and make new happy memories for this Christmas. Remember how happy you once were. Be patient and give it some time, you will find that happiness once again.

Happy Holidays …

Brandon

Do you ever wonder why when you actually think your getting through to someone. That you’ve finally broke down that barrier and it feels like you’ve won them back. Suddenly out of no where that person throws up that WALL and your back at square one and it feels like you’ve lost them all over again.

You both get to that point where your both laughing again, enjoying each others company, theirs no more arguing and it almost seems like everything is back to normal and you feel like your actually getting through to them. Your finally breaking down those Walls and Barriers they tried so hard to put up to protect themselves from getting hurt again. But somewhere along that windy road you, you hit a detour sign and then end up at a Dead End. Somehow you need to find your way back on that road again that leads back to their Heart!

All that hard work and effort you’ve put into the relationship, all the things you’ve done to try to make them understand that you are the right person for them and you would do absolutely anything to make them happy. You do everything you can possibly think of to make it right again. But it’s still not good enough ….. What do you do next?

My suggestion is give it more time. Don’t get frustrated, try putting yourselves in their shoes and try to understand why they feel this way. If you give them time and be there for them and let them know how you really feel. Things will slowly turn around. But if you put to much pressure on them to quickly, they might throw the wall back up again.

I think that people who have been hurt before or have a hard time accepting certain things
In their lives because of let downs or previous bad experiences build walls brick by brick
over time as a human mechanism to protect themselves from feeling those things again. But at the same token by putting up those walls to High or to Strong, they’ll protect and shelter themselves too much, that they’ll most likely not let anyone back in for a long period of time and get use to being alone that they’ll probably never find Love and Happiness again.

Sometimes those WALLS get stronger with time because they learn to live without the other person. Just like in one of my previous post “You never really stop loving someone…You just learn to try to live without them” This is true to a certain extent. They sweep everything under the rug, bottle up those feelings, try to forget what you had with each other and then try their best to start a new life without you in it, but somewhere in back of their minds, hidden way back there. There will always be that soft spot. This is where the brick wall is weakest and if hit in the right spot can be broken down again. If you can find that spot and trigger that emotion, that will bring back all those bottled up feelings they have for you, your on your way to breaking down that wall.

Personally the best way to find that soft spot is to spend a lot of good old fashion QT with each other. QT is what I call Quality Time. It’s so easy to just hang out with each other, but when you spend Quality Time with each other, it’s time that’s more cherished and remembered. The more QT you spend with each other, the more they want you in their lives and miss you when your not in it. A more in depth but not limited too definition of QT is where, you really make an effort to please the other person, where you go out of your way to let the other person know you really care for them. All that stuff you only usually do in the beginning of any new relationship. It’s all the little things, like actually listening to them when their talking, paying attention to all the things their pointing out to you, when they think your not paying attention (ex. window shopping and you purchase the item afterward for them as a little surprise) Complementing them on how good they look. This is where the power of touch and flirting really makes the difference, giving them the attention they so craved and needed before. Where you bring can bring it to a whole new level – Up Close and Personal. That physical element is so hard to resist when there right in front of you looking into your eyes. This is what I call a “Moment” where theirs that moment of silence between the both of you and you know they are falling for you all over again.

If you can create these Moments of Real Intimacy, spend a lot of good Quality Time with each other, your on your way in making a Real Connection with them and I think this time around you can tear down that Wall for good this time !!!

Why Do People Get Married? This question can be answered with a million different answers depending on your upbringing, your outlook on life to your own personal experiences. Yes we can state the obvious reasons why people get married:

• That you love this person and you want to spend the rest of your life with them
• Society tells us it’s the right thing to do
• Trying to Please our parents
• Wanting to settle down and start a family
• Fear of being alone
• Financial security – someone to take care of you or someone to share the bills with

I would say that these are the most common reasons why people decide to tie the knot. If we dig deeper we can see that most people jump into marriage way to quickly or just do it for the wrong reasons, which eventually end up in separation or divorce.

I personally have several friends who have done this, got married to quickly or for the wrong reasons, and are now either separated or divorced. When I say the wrong reasons, I don’t mean that they were forced into getting married with a gun pointed to their head and said “I Do” because they really didn’t want to. What I’m trying to say is their were too many negative external factors that outweighed the actual benefits of getting married. Thinking that all their problems would solve itself on its own or they could just sweep it under the rug and forget all about them and they would go away on its own. Don’t get me wrong, Marriage is a wonderful and sacred gift. But it’s a Gift that you can’t return. When you make the choice to spend the rest of your life with someone – You need to make sure that “This is Really What YOU Want” If there’s even a little bit of uncertainty or any reason why you think you shouldn’t get married or you have access baggage that needs to be dealt with, then don’t do it. Don’t rush into something that will cause you more pain and heartache down the road.

According to divorce statistics in the United States, it is estimated that between 40 percent and 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce. Statistics show that their are several underlying factors that contribute to these trends, but don’t realize that some of these factors could have been avoided if they addressed existing issues and problems they were already experiencing in their relationship before they got married.

I’m sure when they decided that “this was it” and what they wanted more than anything else, most people didn’t take into consideration the following (wrong reasons for getting married):

• Am I marrying this person because it’s about time I settle down!!! All my friends, brothers and sisters are already married, everyone’s having kids and I’m the only one left. This is SOCIAL PEER PRESSURE talking. You don’t want to feel like the 3rd, 5th or 7th wheel anymore when you go out. All your friends are always talking about their kids and you feel left out. Your parents and relatives constantly asking “When are you going to get married?” “Your not getting any younger” When you feel this kind of pressure, a lot of times when you meet someone or have been dating someone for some time but you’re still not 100% sure about them, an internal light switch decides to turn on, convincing yourself, that this is Mr. or Mrs. Right now. Automatically speeding up the process in getting married. Where before you had any of this social peer pressure, you were absolutely fine and content with the way things were between the both of you.

• They are in Love with the thought of getting MARRIED, not so much the person. For them it doesn’t really matter who they are marrying but the fact that they are getting married and they will be the center of attention, as well as having a fancy sparkling ring they can show off to all their friends.

• Marriage will be the savior off all their problems. Somehow by getting married, everything in their past will be erased and they will be able to get a fresh new start. Whatever problems they were running and hiding from in the first place, will somehow go away on its own when they change their last name.

• You don’t want to lose this person, so even though you’re not 100% sure that this is want you want; you marry them so they don’t leave you.

• For MONEY!!! Financial Security, need I say more.

• To Avoid Loneliness – everything from scared of being alone, dying alone and no one to take care of you when you’re older, to having no one to share the holidays with. Just the fear that they will always be alone and that they will not find someone else to share the rest of their life with.

Remember, even though you think your marrying only this person, your also marrying their family and friends. So if you don’t get along with a family member or a best friend, don’t think that they are going to cut them off for you. You have to deal with everything from the in-laws to best friends, if you really want this to work.

Couples who are deeply in love need to realize that the beginning of any new relationship (honeymoon stage) will not feel the same after a lengthy marriage. That those butterflies in your stomach feeling will soon go away. You just need to be spontaneous and exciting to keep your relationship from getting boring and prevent your partner from losing interest. Get out of that Routine.

Couples who are currently experiencing problems, from lack of or poor communication, constant tension, conflicts and arguments should reevaluate their situation before walking down that isle. Unresolved conflicts, excessive fighting, suffocating partner, lack of intimacy are all issues that should be addressed sooner than later. If you suffer from any of these problems and are contemplating marriage, I highly suggest you resolve these issues before getting married. Get some counseling, talk to some close friends who hang out with the both of you a lot, who can give both of you a unbiased opinion. Their are certain things you can do now, to help you prepare and prevent from having major issues later on in your relationship. Learn how to Stop my Divorce and Save my Marriage. If you know you really want to share the rest of your life with this person, you need to learn how to deal with these kinds of situations and accept each others faults, instead of trying to change one another. Like I said in one of my previous articles “ People don’t change, you have to accept them for who they are or move on” is something you should learn now.

So before you decide to tie the knot in marriage do yourself a huge favor before you become just another statistic for a bitter, unhappy married couple, leading towards a painful divorce. Ask yourself truthfully “Am I getting Married because this is what I really Want?” and you’re not getting married for any of the wrong reasons I mentioned above. Then you’re in right direction towards sharing a Happy Life Together with your partner.