Here’s my take on how to start the healing process of getting over a Break Up and a Broken Heart. Number one – Don’t let that feeling in your heart run your life, I know its easy for me to say because I’m not in your shoes but do you think for one second that this person you feel like this for is feeling anything like you are? I highly doubt it and no matter how many times you replay every situation over and over in your head, what you did wrong, what you didn’t do or should have done, it wont make things any better. So my first piece of advise to you is do everything in your power to not remind yourself of this person, easier said then done ha … change up your routine a little, don’t do the things that you and your ex-partner use to do, walk a different path to work, listen to some old music you use to like before you got together with your ex. and try to not be alone because then you have a tendency to think about it alot. Most importantly preoccupy yourself with all the things that make you happy and especially things that will make you a better person, whether it be reading a book, working out, watching an old episode of Seinfeld, to spending some quality time with family & friends and reconnecting with old friends you might have lost touch with since getting to together with your ex. My personal favorite thing to help me get through this rough time is to write down some short and long term goals. Example: I’m going to lead a more active life and try to lose some weight, I’m going to take that course that I have been pushing aside. I’m going to learn how to speak another language. Then place this list of goals on your fridge or on your night stand beside your bed. Read it before you go to bed and when you wake up first thing in the morning. Remind yourself that life goes on and you will find happiness again. Even if these goals are to show this person who hurt you so much you are going to be someone. Someone BIG in life… whatever it takes for you to succeed, to find your personal legend. My motto to help me get by when I needed it was. “This is dedicated to the one that let me get away – SUCCESS IS THE BEST REVENGE” – TADOW HOW YOU LIKE ME NOW !!! In all seriousness it’s not about the revenge but look at it as an opportunity or a blessing in disguise for you to get out of that rut and move on with your life and do all the things that you wanted to do. Maybe that person was actually holding you back and preventing you from achieving your dreams and aspirations.

And now because of this person hurting you, it pushed you to do things that you would not normally do and get you out of your comfort zone and because of that, you might actually owe this person for what you might become or have become already. Look at it like that, for every action there is a re-action and its up to you to make it a good one !!!

Brandon Heart