1. There is the Passive Part – The individual who is being Left (Not there decision) Usually the one who suffers a Broken Heart.
2. Then there is the Active Part – The individual who Leaves the other person (There decision to perform Break Up)

Then there are 2 Sorts of accompanying Pains:

1. Agony of Loss
2. The Distress of Guilt and Doubt

Even though the Pain of Loss seems more traumatic, it heals more quickly and completely since you didn’t have any active role in making the decision. The Pain of Guilt usually lasts longer and may linger and haunt the individual who made the decision to leave.