I thank you for your comments and I agree in what your saying but I think the situation I was trying to portray is a little different then what you are talking about.

I totally agree with the fact that we don’t want to hurt other peoples feelings so we make lame excuses, but in all your points 1 -5, it sounds like the stage of the relationship you are talking about it is in the dating stage or very early stages of a relationship where you are still not sure about each other and just getting to know one another or the commitment is not fully there.

What I was talking about is when your way past that and have been together for at least a couple of months and you have sound foundation to your relationship. It’s almost like you’ve built a routine with each other. This is why I call it D&D. Distant and Different can only happen when the normal routine is broken for some reason after you’ve been with them and had an amazing time that would give you no reason to think that anything is wrong. Basically when someone is acting not like themselves towards you. You can’t have D&D with someone if you haven’t been with this person long enough to establish a routine between the both of you. Example: calling each other every night, just to say good night to each other. This dosen’t happen in the early dating stages or much much later in a relationship but there is that window in between these two stages when everything is BLISS & PERFECT in your world and relationship with each other – I think they call this Cloud 9.

One other thing I’d like to mention in your point 2 is “WHY DO NICE GUYS FINISH LAST” and why do all most girls always go and fall for the BAD GUY !!! What’s up with that !!! Maybe we can talk about that next …….

I’d like to list a couple of reasons why I think an individual (girl OR guy, AND we all know guys are known to do this more often than the ladies) would do a 180 overnight…the reasons will be different for each individual…. And unfortunately, at the end of the day, you’ll probably never get to the bottom of it, b/c people don’t like to hurt other people so they make up lame excuses… I’m willing to shed some light from a girl’s perspective… some may or may not agree but oh well…

1) Breakup after breakup we are told to get ourselves “out there“… to get out of our comfort zone and to meet new people, not to sulk over our lost loved one… yes, a girl might have had fun on a date, but at the end of the day, does she see herself being w/ that person in a long-term relationship? If the answer is no, what’s the point? She is probably not going to want to waste her time after that night….

2) The EX!!! Sad but true… girls tend to compare guys… Is the guy fun? Yes! Is he a nice guy? Yes!… but he’s not _______ (fill in the blank w/ the EX‘s name)…AND we all know the saying… “nice guys finish last”…again, sad but true… as stupid as it is, most of the time the nice guys end up being our friends and nothing more…

3) Commitment phobe!… I would imagine that not too many girls out there are like that, but there are some… unfortunately, if that’s the case, the guy is S.O.L… b/c if a girl likes the guy enough, the commitment desire will be there… so in the end you can say the famous words if this guy happens to be a friend of yours… she’s just “not that into you”…

4) I should also mention this in reference to my first comment about not wasting the time… having fun w/ someone on a date is totally different than the chemistry of the two people… people can have fun, but if the chemistry is lacking, it is probably not going to work out. This excludes people that are willing to settle until they find something better…

5) On the bright side, it could also be circumstances… where she is at in this point in time, in terms of her ambitions. Again, there are very few girls that would sacrifice their ambitions for guys, but if the girl is ambitious enough, she may not want any distractions.

In the end, if a girl is finding the guy’s phone calls annoying already, his best bet would be to move on… Us girls are total sucks for guys that ACTUALLY call when they said they would…IF IT’S THE RIGHT GUY, AT THE RIGHT TIME…. so if a girls’ dodging the calls already, it’s not going to work…

That’s it for now… agree or disagree?