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On one of my previous blogs, I talked about “Why do people play minds games?” Co-workers of mine, Dean and Belinda playing mind games with each other going to extremes to get the upper hand, raise their value, have the ball in there court or just feel good about themselves. The obvious reason why I see why people play mind games is to use Reverse Psychology to actually win the affection of the other person. Even though it’s plainly obvious that both of these individuals have or had some sort of attraction to each other but because of some petty argument, misunderstanding or break down in communication these two individuals have too much pride to take the higher road to give in and just say “I’m sorry” for whatever reason caused there falling out in the first place. So both just keep playing on each others emotions and use Reverse Psychology to try to prove to each other and themselves that they couldn’t care less how each other feels for one another.
It’s called “wanting something we can’t have” this is the root of reverse psychology.
If we can show the other person that we don’t want them, then hopefully we can trigger an emotion in the other person to want you in return. If you can accomplish this and prove to yourself and the other person you don’t want them even though you really do, DING DING DING- We have Winner in this thing we call MIND GAMES !!!
I am going through something similar with a woman at work. It has been an on-off relationship for some time which started as an affair. We now have a child and it continued to be on-off till I could take no more. I tried to communicate to make a go of the relationship but that is where the barriers have gone up. To be fair, I can understand it because, as I said I was having an affair with her and unsure what I felt and wanted. (I was in a long distance relationship to a woman from overseas, which if I am honest I felt obliged to stay in).
I have now finished both relationships but I continue to support my child and work at the same office as the mother of my child.
I realise that I love the mother of my child and I still fancy her but it appears that she may not have feelings for me (anymore?). I try and conceal the fact that I am not happy but she appears happier than she has ever been. I’m finding this a challenge. Things in life with money, work, my health and relationships could be a lot better. I am putting a very brave face on the whole thing and practicing positive thinking, prayer and relaxation though it is still very, very challenging.
I’m sure neither one of us thought we would have feelings for each other during the affair but clearly we both did, although not at the same time.
I’m now torn between maintaining some tiny shred of pride, or asking her one last time if she wants to make a go of it. I wish I could say that I am optimistic but I might not want to be facing the truth.
I’ve tried being patient and waiting for a long time (a few months) and I’m now at the point where I am giving it another 2 days waiting till the end of this month. If I do not see even a glimpse of her feeling for me I will be moving on. I will of course continue to support my child as I love him very much.
These mind games though, are doing my head in. Still if the restructure goes ahead I might not need to worry about seeing her at work anymore!