Comments on: Why Do People Play Mind Games – Part 2

By: Brandon Heart

Brandon Heart — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 05:13:39 +0000

Hi Red942,

Sounds like she likes all the attention from you and this old guy. She knows how to play guys and she knows how to get what she wants. She likes to play the innocent victim and will make you feel sorry for her to get you to give her the attention or whatever she wants at that point in time.

My advice is to play her own game on her. Don’t give her the attention, don’t talk to her, don’t be rude and mean to her but don’t give her the time and day. Don’t go out of your way to talk to her. If you see her in passing, just say “Hey” and walk on by. I guarantee if you play hard to get and give her the cold shoulder, you will see a dramatic change in her attitude towards you and she will be pursuing you.

Even if you see her trying to be extra nice to you, asking you “what’s wrong, everything OK?” Don’t cave and keep playing her own game on her. As soon as you start being extra nice and giving her the attention again, I guarantee she will play these mind games on you all over again.

Good Luck,

Brandon

By: red942

red942 — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 14:34:59 +0000

hi have this co worker releationship with a women who is ina releationship we have a close releationship we get on like the same things and i can tell we like each others company the problem is theres this old guy at work who is prob being friendly but in the past she has told me that she finds him a bit creepy bit touchy feeling once a year she gets a hug of him and once she was off friday so she gived him her telephone number to tex her if overtime was on ,but that was a mistake has the hole week he was ringing her up for no reason ,so i told him about it and he stopped ringing her ,and i stopped speaking to himhas what she told me about him she always tells me things like hesalways waiting to talk to me if i go over to his side of work then shes talking away to him he comes over to do crosswords and im thinking you just told me this guys creeps you out ,also this guy was off work the hole week he came in the yard to give her a paper in the meantime she tells me it winds me up has why are you telling me are you doing it on purpose i said you have a stalker there then she says im going to tex him to say thankyou for the paper has also he dropped another one off with a person to give her ,i said if you tex him it will be like slapping me in the face has i stopped him ringing and text her ,then shes been off with me and then she came back and said who are you tell me i cant tex anyone you dont know me well enough ivs known her for 14 months got close what do you think her game is if she has one we get close have a laugh has friends we do have a flirt but always she has to bring this old guy up why is she doing this if any suggestions please list has i do care for her i do have strong feelings for her but my head has been messed up by her shes a shy girl who keeps her self to her self i am the person she opens up to has i work close to her on our jobs

By: Brandon Heart

Brandon Heart — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 04:32:14 +0000

Oden, thanks for stopping by. I feel for you, Unfortunately sounds like your girl can’t fully commit. She’s probably the most amazingest girl when she’s fully into you and it feels great but when she gets bored or someone comes around she loses her way. I’ve been their before and I’ve seen this so many times and worst part about your situation is it’s tougher to leave because you have a daughter together.

My suggestion is to be strong, hang in there but remember your happiness should always come first, don’t let her play games with you and be her puppet. I know this may sound harsh but take a stand every now and then and I guarantee she will be caught off guard and be the one trying to win your affection.

Good Luck ….

By: oden

oden — Mon, 15 Nov 2010 17:47:11 +0000

im in a relationship that has went back and forth for 3 yrs. love the girl with all my heart. we have a daughter together. she keeps playing games with my heart. she says she loves me but is constently texting others. and she has taken off 5 times and comes back saying she sorry. she f*%$ed around several times with other guys. but she doesnt act like herself when herfriends or family are around. she has a great heart and buityful soul.

By: indiboy

indiboy — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 16:42:52 +0000

i am a master of this game. though it really hurts me later on that why i did that but then i start thinking that i am actually making my victim stronger so that they can fight the coming battles in their life.

By: Brandon Heart

Brandon Heart — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 04:03:53 +0000

Yes it can be very tough and at times extremely draining going back and forth. One day everything seems perfect and it looks like things are going somewhere and then for no reason the walls come up and the attitude and mind games start all over again. It’s really hard to move on with your life when you have to work with that someone and have to see them. It just makes it that more difficult.

Sounds like you are doing the right things by practicing positive thinking, prayer and relaxation, you just need to keep at it and keep yourself preoccupied with things you enjoy doing to keep your mind of it.

Personally I think you should just cut it off with her and just be a good father to your child. Move on with your life and find someone else who will make you happy again. Maybe then when you don’t show any interest in her and she sees how happy you are, she’ll then realize what she lost.

By: Phil

Phil — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:08:25 +0000

I am going through something similar with a woman at work. It has been an on-off relationship for some time which started as an affair. We now have a child and it continued to be on-off till I could take no more. I tried to communicate to make a go of the relationship but that is where the barriers have gone up. To be fair, I can understand it because, as I said I was having an affair with her and unsure what I felt and wanted. (I was in a long distance relationship to a woman from overseas, which if I am honest I felt obliged to stay in).
I have now finished both relationships but I continue to support my child and work at the same office as the mother of my child.
I realise that I love the mother of my child and I still fancy her but it appears that she may not have feelings for me (anymore?). I try and conceal the fact that I am not happy but she appears happier than she has ever been. I’m finding this a challenge. Things in life with money, work, my health and relationships could be a lot better. I am putting a very brave face on the whole thing and practicing positive thinking, prayer and relaxation though it is still very, very challenging.
I’m sure neither one of us thought we would have feelings for each other during the affair but clearly we both did, although not at the same time.
I’m now torn between maintaining some tiny shred of pride, or asking her one last time if she wants to make a go of it. I wish I could say that I am optimistic but I might not want to be facing the truth.
I’ve tried being patient and waiting for a long time (a few months) and I’m now at the point where I am giving it another 2 days waiting till the end of this month. If I do not see even a glimpse of her feeling for me I will be moving on. I will of course continue to support my child as I love him very much.
These mind games though, are doing my head in. Still if the restructure goes ahead I might not need to worry about seeing her at work anymore!