Comments on: Why Do People Play Mind Games – Part 2 http://www.lovinghurts.com/2009/04/12/why-do-people-play-mind-games-part-2/ Mon, 14 Jun 2010 19:44:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: indiboy http://www.lovinghurts.com/2009/04/12/why-do-people-play-mind-games-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-170 indiboy Fri, 01 Jan 2010 16:42:52 +0000 http://lovinghurts.com/?p=285#comment-170 i am a master of this game. though it really hurts me later on that why i did that but then i start thinking that i am actually making my victim stronger so that they can fight the coming battles in their life. i am a master of this game. though it really hurts me later on that why i did that but then i start thinking that i am actually making my victim stronger so that they can fight the coming battles in their life.

]]> By: Brandon Heart http://www.lovinghurts.com/2009/04/12/why-do-people-play-mind-games-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-165 Brandon Heart Tue, 29 Sep 2009 04:03:53 +0000 http://lovinghurts.com/?p=285#comment-165 Yes it can be very tough and at times extremely draining going back and forth. One day everything seems perfect and it looks like things are going somewhere and then for no reason the walls come up and the attitude and mind games start all over again. It's really hard to move on with your life when you have to work with that someone and have to see them. It just makes it that more difficult. Sounds like you are doing the right things by practicing positive thinking, prayer and relaxation, you just need to keep at it and keep yourself preoccupied with things you enjoy doing to keep your mind of it. Personally I think you should just cut it off with her and just be a good father to your child. Move on with your life and find someone else who will make you happy again. Maybe then when you don't show any interest in her and she sees how happy you are, she’ll then realize what she lost. Yes it can be very tough and at times extremely draining going back and forth. One day everything seems perfect and it looks like things are going somewhere and then for no reason the walls come up and the attitude and mind games start all over again. It’s really hard to move on with your life when you have to work with that someone and have to see them. It just makes it that more difficult.

Sounds like you are doing the right things by practicing positive thinking, prayer and relaxation, you just need to keep at it and keep yourself preoccupied with things you enjoy doing to keep your mind of it.

Personally I think you should just cut it off with her and just be a good father to your child. Move on with your life and find someone else who will make you happy again. Maybe then when you don’t show any interest in her and she sees how happy you are, she’ll then realize what she lost.

]]> By: Phil http://www.lovinghurts.com/2009/04/12/why-do-people-play-mind-games-part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-162 Phil Mon, 28 Sep 2009 19:08:25 +0000 http://lovinghurts.com/?p=285#comment-162 I am going through something similar with a woman at work. It has been an on-off relationship for some time which started as an affair. We now have a child and it continued to be on-off till I could take no more. I tried to communicate to make a go of the relationship but that is where the barriers have gone up. To be fair, I can understand it because, as I said I was having an affair with her and unsure what I felt and wanted. (I was in a long distance relationship to a woman from overseas, which if I am honest I felt obliged to stay in). I have now finished both relationships but I continue to support my child and work at the same office as the mother of my child. I realise that I love the mother of my child and I still fancy her but it appears that she may not have feelings for me (anymore?). I try and conceal the fact that I am not happy but she appears happier than she has ever been. I'm finding this a challenge. Things in life with money, work, my health and relationships could be a lot better. I am putting a very brave face on the whole thing and practicing positive thinking, prayer and relaxation though it is still very, very challenging. I'm sure neither one of us thought we would have feelings for each other during the affair but clearly we both did, although not at the same time. I'm now torn between maintaining some tiny shred of pride, or asking her one last time if she wants to make a go of it. I wish I could say that I am optimistic but I might not want to be facing the truth. I've tried being patient and waiting for a long time (a few months) and I’m now at the point where I am giving it another 2 days waiting till the end of this month. If I do not see even a glimpse of her feeling for me I will be moving on. I will of course continue to support my child as I love him very much. These mind games though, are doing my head in. Still if the restructure goes ahead I might not need to worry about seeing her at work anymore! I am going through something similar with a woman at work. It has been an on-off relationship for some time which started as an affair. We now have a child and it continued to be on-off till I could take no more. I tried to communicate to make a go of the relationship but that is where the barriers have gone up. To be fair, I can understand it because, as I said I was having an affair with her and unsure what I felt and wanted. (I was in a long distance relationship to a woman from overseas, which if I am honest I felt obliged to stay in).
I have now finished both relationships but I continue to support my child and work at the same office as the mother of my child.
I realise that I love the mother of my child and I still fancy her but it appears that she may not have feelings for me (anymore?). I try and conceal the fact that I am not happy but she appears happier than she has ever been. I’m finding this a challenge. Things in life with money, work, my health and relationships could be a lot better. I am putting a very brave face on the whole thing and practicing positive thinking, prayer and relaxation though it is still very, very challenging.
I’m sure neither one of us thought we would have feelings for each other during the affair but clearly we both did, although not at the same time.
I’m now torn between maintaining some tiny shred of pride, or asking her one last time if she wants to make a go of it. I wish I could say that I am optimistic but I might not want to be facing the truth.
I’ve tried being patient and waiting for a long time (a few months) and I’m now at the point where I am giving it another 2 days waiting till the end of this month. If I do not see even a glimpse of her feeling for me I will be moving on. I will of course continue to support my child as I love him very much.
These mind games though, are doing my head in. Still if the restructure goes ahead I might not need to worry about seeing her at work anymore!

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