Why Do People Get Married? This question can be answered with a million different answers depending on your upbringing, your outlook on life to your own personal experiences. Yes we can state the obvious reasons why people get married:

• That you love this person and you want to spend the rest of your life with them
• Society tells us it’s the right thing to do
• Trying to Please our parents
• Wanting to settle down and start a family
• Fear of being alone
• Financial security – someone to take care of you or someone to share the bills with

I would say that these are the most common reasons why people decide to tie the knot. If we dig deeper we can see that most people jump into marriage way to quickly or just do it for the wrong reasons, which eventually end up in separation or divorce.

I personally have several friends who have done this, got married to quickly or for the wrong reasons, and are now either separated or divorced. When I say the wrong reasons, I don’t mean that they were forced into getting married with a gun pointed to their head and said “I Do” because they really didn’t want to. What I’m trying to say is their were too many negative external factors that outweighed the actual benefits of getting married. Thinking that all their problems would solve itself on its own or they could just sweep it under the rug and forget all about them and they would go away on its own. Don’t get me wrong, Marriage is a wonderful and sacred gift. But it’s a Gift that you can’t return. When you make the choice to spend the rest of your life with someone – You need to make sure that “This is Really What YOU Want” If there’s even a little bit of uncertainty or any reason why you think you shouldn’t get married or you have access baggage that needs to be dealt with, then don’t do it. Don’t rush into something that will cause you more pain and heartache down the road.

According to divorce statistics in the United States, it is estimated that between 40 percent and 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce. Statistics show that their are several underlying factors that contribute to these trends, but don’t realize that some of these factors could have been avoided if they addressed existing issues and problems they were already experiencing in their relationship before they got married.

I’m sure when they decided that “this was it” and what they wanted more than anything else, most people didn’t take into consideration the following (wrong reasons for getting married):

• Am I marrying this person because it’s about time I settle down!!! All my friends, brothers and sisters are already married, everyone’s having kids and I’m the only one left. This is SOCIAL PEER PRESSURE talking. You don’t want to feel like the 3rd, 5th or 7th wheel anymore when you go out. All your friends are always talking about their kids and you feel left out. Your parents and relatives constantly asking “When are you going to get married?” “Your not getting any younger” When you feel this kind of pressure, a lot of times when you meet someone or have been dating someone for some time but you’re still not 100% sure about them, an internal light switch decides to turn on, convincing yourself, that this is Mr. or Mrs. Right now. Automatically speeding up the process in getting married. Where before you had any of this social peer pressure, you were absolutely fine and content with the way things were between the both of you.

• They are in Love with the thought of getting MARRIED, not so much the person. For them it doesn’t really matter who they are marrying but the fact that they are getting married and they will be the center of attention, as well as having a fancy sparkling ring they can show off to all their friends.

• Marriage will be the savior off all their problems. Somehow by getting married, everything in their past will be erased and they will be able to get a fresh new start. Whatever problems they were running and hiding from in the first place, will somehow go away on its own when they change their last name.

• You don’t want to lose this person, so even though you’re not 100% sure that this is want you want; you marry them so they don’t leave you.

• For MONEY!!! Financial Security, need I say more.

• To Avoid Loneliness – everything from scared of being alone, dying alone and no one to take care of you when you’re older, to having no one to share the holidays with. Just the fear that they will always be alone and that they will not find someone else to share the rest of their life with.

Remember, even though you think your marrying only this person, your also marrying their family and friends. So if you don’t get along with a family member or a best friend, don’t think that they are going to cut them off for you. You have to deal with everything from the in-laws to best friends, if you really want this to work.

Couples who are deeply in love need to realize that the beginning of any new relationship (honeymoon stage) will not feel the same after a lengthy marriage. That those butterflies in your stomach feeling will soon go away. You just need to be spontaneous and exciting to keep your relationship from getting boring and prevent your partner from losing interest. Get out of that Routine.

Couples who are currently experiencing problems, from lack of or poor communication, constant tension, conflicts and arguments should reevaluate their situation before walking down that isle. Unresolved conflicts, excessive fighting, suffocating partner, lack of intimacy are all issues that should be addressed sooner than later. If you suffer from any of these problems and are contemplating marriage, I highly suggest you resolve these issues before getting married. Get some counseling, talk to some close friends who hang out with the both of you a lot, who can give both of you a unbiased opinion. Their are certain things you can do now, to help you prepare and prevent from having major issues later on in your relationship. Learn how to Stop my Divorce and Save my Marriage. If you know you really want to share the rest of your life with this person, you need to learn how to deal with these kinds of situations and accept each others faults, instead of trying to change one another. Like I said in one of my previous articles “ People don’t change, you have to accept them for who they are or move on” is something you should learn now.

So before you decide to tie the knot in marriage do yourself a huge favor before you become just another statistic for a bitter, unhappy married couple, leading towards a painful divorce. Ask yourself truthfully “Am I getting Married because this is what I really Want?” and you’re not getting married for any of the wrong reasons I mentioned above. Then you’re in right direction towards sharing a Happy Life Together with your partner.