Comments on: Why Do People Build Walls Around Themselves? http://www.lovinghurts.com/2009/06/07/why-do-people-build-walls-around-themselves/ Sun, 27 Nov 2011 05:13:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Brandon Heart http://www.lovinghurts.com/2009/06/07/why-do-people-build-walls-around-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-191 Brandon Heart Thu, 11 Nov 2010 00:49:02 +0000 http://lovinghurts.com/?p=359#comment-191 Hi Alicess, Thanks for the sharing and for the comment. I agree with you, I think the main reason why relationships don't work out is because the lack of communication in these instances. People need to explain to their partner how they are really feeling vs not letting them in, putting up a wall or just plainly being mean. People need to let the other person know how they really feel and inform them that this has nothing to do with them. People can't mind read, or a least all the people I know. Hopefully after letting them know, these people will have some patience and give them the space they need and then try to stick it out instead of jumping ship early. Brandon Hi Alicess,

Thanks for the sharing and for the comment. I agree with you, I think the main reason why relationships don’t work out is because the lack of communication in these instances. People need to explain to their partner how they are really feeling vs not letting them in, putting up a wall or just plainly being mean. People need to let the other person know how they really feel and inform them that this has nothing to do with them. People can’t mind read, or a least all the people I know. Hopefully after letting them know, these people will have some patience and give them the space they need and then try to stick it out instead of jumping ship early.

Brandon

]]> By: alicess http://www.lovinghurts.com/2009/06/07/why-do-people-build-walls-around-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-190 alicess Wed, 10 Nov 2010 02:05:18 +0000 http://lovinghurts.com/?p=359#comment-190 I build walls, and at first, I feel protected but when the loneliness, it is emotionally painful. Most of the people misinterpret it and give up on breaking the walls down. I recently lost my boyfriend of 4 years because I kept isolating myself. Over those years, he got better at getting through to me by reliving special moments and by giving me time and space, yet letting me know that's he there for me. I opened up to him more as time went on, but a major stressor in my life triggered me to build a huge wall, and that lead to the demise of our beautiful relationship. Thanks for this article- it was very personal and made me cry. I build walls, and at first, I feel protected but when the loneliness, it is emotionally painful. Most of the people misinterpret it and give up on breaking the walls down. I recently lost my boyfriend of 4 years because I kept isolating myself. Over those years, he got better at getting through to me by reliving special moments and by giving me time and space, yet letting me know that’s he there for me. I opened up to him more as time went on, but a major stressor in my life triggered me to build a huge wall, and that lead to the demise of our beautiful relationship. Thanks for this article- it was very personal and made me cry.

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