Last week a good friend of mine at work tells me she got in a fight with her boyfriend. The fight was over something very simple and probably should have never happened all. Basically my friend and her boyfriend were not seeing eye to eye at all and both were standing their ground and not giving in. I could see how much it was bothering her and affecting her at work. She couldn’t think straight and even though she looked ok on the outside, deep inside she was really hurting and probably wanted to just breakdown and cry.

All she needed was an apology from him saying that he was wrong and should have complied too her simple request. All he wanted was for her to say she was being unreasonable for getting mad at him for something so stupid and for her to just let it go. Another day passed and they didn’t talk, it was bothering the crap out of her as each second passed. Every time her phone rang she was praying it was it was him going to say “I’m Sorry Baby” but her never called.

The two of them live together but that week she had gone out every single night with her friends and stayed out late trying to prove a point and stand her ground. Now it was Friday and it was the weekend. She knew eventually sometime that weekend they would end up talking but she knew in the back of her mind that she wanted to still stand strong and make him understand she wasn’t being unreasonable and it was all about the principle. I called it out and told her that one of you needs to take the higher ground, if you want this thing to end. Make a compromise and just meet half way. Don’t tell him he was right just to end all this fighting, at the same time don’t keep ignoring him because it’s just going to fuel the fire and make things worse. Talk about how you feel and but don’t argue. I know it sounds impossible to do because your probably angry, frustrated and fed up but think about the principle your trying to prove, when you feel like your going to starting yelling.

Talk to him without raising your voice and make him understand your side. Tell him put yourself in your shoes. Ask him what if the roles were reversed. He probably won’t see it like the way you want him too because most guys are really stubborn and have a huge ego but now at least your somewhat communicating and some of the barriers have come down.

I didn’t speak to my friend today to see what happened to her over the weekend to see if all is good with the two of them now, hopefully I will hear from her tomorrow. I hope she took my advice to take the higher ground and stop ignoring him and try to talk to him about how she feels without yelling. To be continued …… when I find out what happened.