It’s that time of year again, where it seems like everyone else around you seems to be having the times of their lives accept you. That time of the year that reminds you that being alone during the holidays really sucks. It’s really difficult to try and enjoy the holidays when you’re single and everyone around you is so lovey dovey with their significant others and it feels like you’re the only single person left in the whole world.

Unfortunately when you don’t have someone special to spend the holiday season with you have a tendency to reminisce in the past and think of an ex or someone you previously spent the holidays with. You try and remember some festive activities you shared together or just the time you spent together during this time of year and wonder what it would be like if you were still together. Doing this will make matters worse and make you more vulnerable to doing something stupid like calling them which could open up the flood gates to another broken heart that was in the process of already healing.

I find that it’s during this time of year which makes for the fondest memories and trigger those special childhood ones that you somehow try to re-live and bring back. It’s also that time of year which can bring out the worst and best in some people because of previous Christmas and the memories they have.

So my advice to you, if you’re alone again during this holiday season tell yourself that “This is the last Christmas you’re going to be alone”. Look at it like it’s a blessing in disguise. A reason for you to really find yourself and get ready for the new year ahead. Your year to come – 2010. This is the year you break out of your rut and make it the best and happiest year so far. But for now spend this time of year with family and close friends. Be thankful for the blessing you do have in your life. Appreciate that you’re lucky enough to wake up to another day and that any day now you might find that special someone. Don’t exclude yourself from going out and having fun because you’re feeling down and depressed. Go out and make new happy memories for this Christmas. Remember how happy you once were. Be patient and give it some time, you will find that happiness once again.

Happy Holidays …

Brandon